5 Things You Should Never Share With Anyone—No Matter What

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May 17
2 min read

Be careful with the information you choose to share. Not everyone has the capacity to carry your truth with care. It doesn’t matter how close someone is to you—discernment is everything.

Here are 5 things I believe you should never share with anyone, no matter what.

1. Your Dreams, Visions & Big Goals

Your dreams are sacred. They’re deeply personal, often fragile, especially in their early stages. Sharing them too soon, even with well-meaning friends or family, can expose them to doubt, negativity, or unintended sabotage.

Sometimes, people simply can’t understand your vision. It might be too big for them. They may project their fears, their limits, or even their jealousy onto you, making you second-guess yourself before you’ve even begun. Protect your dreams until they’re strong enough to stand on their own. Share them only with those you absolutely trust, those who have proven they believe in you and your potential.

2. Your Family Dynamics

No one needs to know what’s going on in your household. Whether it’s sibling disagreements, tension with a parent, or conflict with a spouse, keep that information private. People are dealing with their own issues and can easily misinterpret or judge your situation from the outside. Even those close to you may unintentionally give harmful advice or share your struggles with others. Instead, confide in a therapist, journal your thoughts, or talk to a trusted mentor. Not every family moment needs to be public knowledge.

3. Your Past Mistakes

Everyone has a past. We’ve all made mistakes—some foolish, some well-intentioned but poorly executed. While it’s okay to share the lessons from your past, you don’t owe anyone a full confession of every misstep. Be cautious of who you open up to. Not everyone will receive your vulnerability with grace. Worse, some may use it against you later.

4. Your Finances

Your money is your business. Whether you're earning a lot or just getting by, your income, expenses, bank accounts, side hustles, or financial goals should be kept private.

Why? Because money talk often stirs envy, comparison, and unsolicited opinions. Even close friends can become uncomfortable or competitive when finances are discussed openly.

Financial discretion is a form of self-protection. Keep your numbers to yourself and move in silence.

5. Your Personal Life (Especially on Social Media)

Vacations, expensive purchases, exciting plans, these are wonderful to experience, but not everything needs to be broadcast. Oversharing your high moments can attract the wrong kind of attention. Not everyone is celebrating with you. Some are secretly watching, judging, or even hoping for your downfall. And for those who are married: Do not overshare your relationship troubles. Venting about your spouse in the heat of the moment can cause lasting damage—especially with family or friends who may not forget what you’ve forgiven.

Speak to a therapist, a mentor, or a trusted confidant who understands the nuances of relationships.

In a world that often rewards openness and “realness,” Wisdom is knowing what to say, and what to keep sacred.